I have had my fair share of first dates, whether they stem from parental setups, friends or online. As much as I hate awkward, I have come to expect that the first interaction will be just that. But, it's all about keeping an open mind and seeing if there's any chemistry past the second date.
Indians usually pride themselves on their stature and reputation within their society. It matters to most Indians what the rest of the community thinks of them. At least that is mostly true with my parents' generation. Less true of my generation, I think. Personally, I think there are parts of my life that I think my parents would rather not know about. They don't need to know, nor do they want to know, that I like to enjoy a drink every now and then. Nothing crazy, but strict Indian parents never like to know about any of their kids indiscretions (no matter how small). And, let's face it, nobody wants to disappoint their parents...
This meant that in all of the information ever shared about me (in the form of bio-datas, online profiles, etc), and in front of family and family friends, I didn't drink. If someone who was interested in me were ever to ask me about it, I wouldn't lie, but it wasn't something that was advertised.
Why is it, then, that with 90% of my first dates wanted to know within the first 20 minutes of ever talking to me, they wanted to know if I "liked to drink or party"? Honestly, is that really a make or break deal for boys? Is it really that important for them to know whether or not I drink that it has to be asked within the first conversation?
At least only two of them only ever used drinking as an excuse for anything.
The first 'called in sick' at work on a Tuesday morning because he had been out late 'getting smashed' the night before. The second decided that meeting me for the first time at 11am on a Saturday morning was 'too early because [he was] going to be partying on Friday night'. Awesome. Great first impressions, people!
Well, I have to commend them on their honesty...
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