I don't know if other women find this or not, but whenever you find an awesome profile online, the picture that eventually follows is more often than not of someone who you don't find attractive. I'm not saying that they aren't attractive in general, it's me who isn't attracted to them.
I try to keep an open mind and not be vain as I hate it when people judge me by the way I look. So, I meet with people, get to know them... but for me, when the personality and looks don't mesh to give me an attractive package, I can't say I'm the best at hiding it.
The guy who I promised to keep an open mind about (the one who emailed and said that his mom had asked him to email, etc - see 'Mamma's Boy'), I did. As much I could, anyway. I wasn't his biggest fan - not just from the emails, but from his pictures. I didn't find him incredibly attractive but reminded myself that not everyone's pictures are the same.
I emailed him mid-afternoon as I happened to be downtown and asked if he wanted to grab a coffee later in the evening. I hadn't expected to stay downtown and apologized for the last-minute notice. He altered some plans with friends and agreed to meet up. And, he was nice - friendly, kind, interested in learning about me. But, I had no attraction to him. None. Through the entire conversation, I tried to imagine us in a picture together, and I couldn't. Sadly, I probably didn't hide it well, either. It was just his chubby lower cheeks that threw me off - they kept catching my attention and not in a good way (I had to make a continued effort to make eye contact and not be mesmerized by the cheeks!).
I thanked him for the cranberry/soda, dropped him home and wished him a goodnight.
I feel so vain. But where is the balance between physical attraction and personality? Should they not both go together, providing an attractive combination?
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